Written by Bella Sage
As a college student living in a realm full of technology and “glam,” it is sometimes hard to remember who I am in Christ. We can all clearly see how our society defines beauty. Social media like Instagram shows endless examples of what we should look like. “Socially acceptable” women are seen as skinny, tan, tall, and blonde, with curves in all the right places. On the other hand, men are desired to be tall, handsome, muscular, and effortlessly put-together. Our society tries to cram us all into a little box of what is defined as “beauty,” but who says that what is outside the box isn’t beautiful too?
Middle school through my Sophomore year of high school was very difficult for me when it came to body issues. I saw all these gorgeous women and wondered why I didn’t look like them. I wanted to be taller, wanted to be skinner, wanted to have perfectly straight hair and flawless skin. I kept telling myself that “when I get skinny, then I’ll be happy.” I eventually learned that this was the farthest thing from the truth. My eighth-grade year I stopped eating. I was diagnosed with depression and anorexia and went through several months of counseling and anti-depressant pills. I know that this journey is different for everyone, but I found that the only way I discovered my self-worth was by looking to Jesus. The pills and the therapy didn’t help me because I needed a permanent solution; I needed to change the way I thought about myself. Instead, I dove into His word, trying to figure out exactly who I was and what being “beautiful” really meant.
What I learned is that we are all fearfully and wonderfully made. I learned that I am created in God’s image, which is perfection. God formed me, and He formed you, beautiful in its own sense of the word. Psalm 139:13-14 states, “for you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” We are all created in His image, formed by the works of His hands. How incredible is that?! That the Creator of the Universe created you exactly the way you are and sees you as perfect. If God thinks that you are beautiful, then does anyone else’s opinion really matter? Romans 8:21 says, “What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us?” Take PRIDE in being unique, take pride in choosing not to be put in societies’ box.
If you are struggling with your body image, the best way to overcome is through changing your mindset. Remind yourself to Whom you belong. My freshman year of High School I hung a piece of paper on my bathroom mirror.
I am beautiful.
I am worthy.
I am a child of God.
God loves me just the way I am.
When I wrote this, I don’t think I believed it at all. When I hung it on my mirror, it almost felt like a lie. But this simple quote changed my life. I looked at this piece of paper every day. Every time I went to look at myself, to judge myself in the mirror, I saw the TRUTH that God had proclaimed to me. My friends, you are beautiful. You are worthy. You are a son, or a daughter, of the One of made you in His image. And He loves you, just the way you are.
You are loved, formed, chosen, and pursued by the One who made all things. Rejoice in this assurance, because there is nothing the world could do or say to change the fact that God made you exactly the way you are supposed to be. Create your own mantra, remind yourself of what you need to hear. Write it everywhere: on your mirror, on the scale, in your car, even tape it to your forehead if you have to. Scream it to the world, because society deserves to know that there is so much more beauty in the world than what they try to cram into that little box.
Be different, be unique. Learn how to love yourself for who you are, because You are beautifully, you.
Meet the Author
Bella is a kind-hearted and passionate 19-year-old college student living in small-town Durango, Colorado. She leads a busy life of traveling, inspiring, and pursuing her dreams. As an advocate of love, Bella has been writing her own faith/lifestyle/adventure blog for the past two years at http://endlesslyloved.com/ . She writes in hopes to remind everyone of the reckless, endless love that the Lord has for each of His children. She is also a full-time singer for the worship team at her church, and she hopes that her blog, her testimony, and her walk with God will inspire you to live vicariously through His grace and love.